The chest of drawers with handles that have been pulled too many times to count, with little stickers on the side and some of the paintwork coming of – it’s barely white anymore but it still peforms the function of a chest of drawers perfectly. Imperfectly perfect. Sometimes you need to stop yourself getting attached to an inanimate object because it isn’t going to last forever and it is only a materialistic object. But that object has memories that won’t be there if you get rid of it, even if there is a better alternative. Sometimes letting go is the best thing.
It’s easier said than done (although I’m not talking about a chest of drawers here) but if someone is bringing you down, spreading their negative thoughts or you’re just generally unhappy in your current situation then let go, trust me it works. You don’t exactly have to shut that person out of your life for good but making new friends, meeting new people and not interacting with them as much socially will make you 10x happier.
What’s holding you back?
Are they holding you back, or is it you – okay letting go may not be the best thing because sometimes it is you that’s holding yourself back. However, if they’re stopping you from being the person you want to be (and this discounts parents) then maybe letting go is the answer.
I started this blog last year because I loved expressing my thoughts and had no one to express them to, not everyone my age wanted to discuss the varying shades of navy you can buy. Fashion has been a constant throughout my life and it still is, more so in the past few years. When I was thirteen I got Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and became a little less oblivious to the fact that everyone seems to be online. Whether it’s through YouTube and Alexa Chung’s ‘the future of fashion‘ series or friends posting photos of them in a new outfit they bought; the fashion world I’d loved for the first time came crashing down… I didn’t want to be different. As a result of that I bought clothes that were too skimpy for my liking just to impress people I also didn’t really like to receive self gratification that I didn’t really care about but felt incredibly important to me at the time.
This desire to impress others has luckily petered out and I am left with a new found love of fashion, one where I wear what I what when I want. Going out to the shops? Pajamas it is then. But seriously, I have let go of the people that I felt worst around – I literally couldn’t wear what I want because I felt like I was being judged. You can understand how much anxiety I felt on non uniform days, my heart pounding ten times faster than it should be because I was wearing tartan trousers opposed to black skinny jeans – it was hell. But now I have a group of friends that accept my slightly outrageous fashion choices and I’ve grown into what I wear. I now get compliments wearing the things I love and not in the things I thought I should love. I wear what I want with confidence and if someone or something is stopping you from being the best version of you, let go.
Letting go of my blog would probably be one of the hardest things I would have to do but has it ever crossed my mind? Of course! Even if you think about it sometimes it doesn’t mean you should let something go forever. Next year with my exams I’m going to let go of my blog for a little bit – I just couldn’t possibly carry on whilst revising who was really to blame for the Cold War (it’s too serious a subject to even contemplate blogging) but that’s okay because I’ll come back to it with some bomb posts. Right now I’m just grateful I have time to still blog so I don’t want to get ahead of myself.
Whether it be a friend, a boyfriend or even a job sometimes letting go is the best outcome of a situation. I hope this post has helped you in some way and let me know if you’ve ever let go of something/someone that you didn’t want to let go of – was it for the best?
Love, Eleanor xx